Its 1:30am and you are still awake. Sitting on the recliner with your laptop open staring at the screen. You needed to grab your power-cord about 2 hours ago because your battery was at 3% and your laptop was going to sleep in about 5 minutes.
I was determined to not let my MBA get in the way of spending time with him.
This was my story. I’m Jordon and I just finished my Masters in Business Administration (MBA) from Cedarville University. Of course, late nights are typically part of the process in education, but there is another reason I was usually up late working on my classes. You see, in May of 2013 a certain little boy was born. In just a few short months I would be starting my MBA but I quickly fell in love with this little guy. I was determined to not let my MBA get in the way of spending time with him.
Only after 9…
As my son got older and was able to crawl and then walk, I started spending more and more time with him when I would get home from work instead of starting on school. As a rule, I wouldn’t typically start working on school until 9pm. This gave me 4–5 hours with him before he went to bed. You see, I don’t get very much time with him and the time that I do have while he is awake is very important.
Why does this matter?
This is something I have been thinking a lot about lately. What drives you to do the things that you do? I now have a beautiful 7 month old daughter as well and she is an absolute charmer! I tend to focus extremely hard on my job and try to do the best that I can for myself and my company. But why? I certainly want to provide for my family and make sure they have the things that they need, however, if all I focus on is making sure they have all of the money for the things they need but don’t actually have time to spend with them, what’s the point? I have been able to excel in my professional career while still maintaining a work-life balance. Family is important.
A plumbing project
My dad was an amazing example of love for family. He taught me to work hard and to love family. I remember my dad working on his college degree when I was little and he would hold me on his lap to study through flashcards before a test. I remember him working on a plumbing issue under the sink and me and my brothers would be climbing all over him to “help” fix the problem. Now, 25 years later, I am thankful he made family so important.
That annoying little kid…
My son loves to spend time with me and I try my hardest to ensure he always knows he is welcome and wanted. When I’m mowing the lawn, he wants to walk with me behind the lawnmower and reach up as high as he can to just barely grab the handle; I even lowered the handle down a bit so he can hold it easier. Its certainly not easier for me to push the mower with the handle so low, but I’m mowing with my son and that is all that matters.
When I get home from work, he comes running to the door and shouts “Daddy. Home. Truck. Lawnmower.” He hasn’t mastered prepositional phrases yet. He’s still working on verbs, honestly, but it makes me super happy to hear his voice and see the door open as I’m walking into the house.
I want to be the dad whose kids understand how much they are loved. I never want them to feel as if they can’t come sit on my lap or ask to ride along with me in my truck. I love sitting at the dining room table eating ice cream with them.
If you have kids, embrace them! Show them they are loved.
Things will always take longer with them around than they did before, but that is okay. Coming to the understanding that these little people are your responsibility is sobering and exciting all at the same time. If you have kids, embrace them! Show them they are loved. Tuck them into bed at night. Read them books. Take them on walks. Give them a hammer and nail and show them how to use it. Let them run in the rain. You will never regret it.